Your Situation

Which best describes where you are right now?

I want a divorce and need to tell my spouse I want to suggest mediation instead of attorneys My spouse filed and I want to respond constructively We've discussed divorce but can't move forward

Your Tone

How do you want this letter to feel?

Gentle and compassionate Direct and honest Focused on the family Practical and business-like

What to Include

Select all that apply — these will shape the content of your letter.

Acknowledge the good in our relationship This isn't about blame Focus on our children's wellbeing Suggest mediation as an alternative to court Propose a specific next step Set healthy boundaries for the process Express hope for an amicable resolution

Personal Details

These details personalize your letter. Only first names are used in the letter itself.

Your first name

Spouse's first name

Years married

years

Do you have children?

Yes No

One thing you want them to know (optional)

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Your Letter Draft

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This tool generates a letter template only and does not constitute legal advice. The generated content is a starting point — feel free to edit, personalize, and make it truly yours before sharing it. For guidance on legal matters related to divorce, consult with a mediator or attorney.

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